If you didn't see it, take a look at this article from yesterday's Observer. It's the story of a woman in her forties who doesn't have children, and explains how marginalised she often feels as a result of her childlessness. She discusses how all-consuming the role of motherhood has become in our society, and how it can leave those who don't have children feeling ostracised and isolated.
It may surprise you to know that one in five of the female population in the UK will not have children, as it doesn't always feel that common when you are the lone childless woman in a room full of mothers. Many of us will recognise the feelings of separation from other women who have children, and the awkwardness that can arise at certain social situations. I often suggest that women who are actively trying to get pregnant should simply avoid events which are likely to be particularly difficult, but this isn't a long-term solution if you have accepted a child-free future.
If all this sounds very familiar, you may be interested in a group called Gateway Women set up by the woman featured in the Observer piece which aims to offer support to those in this situation.
Do also have a look at More To Life the UK national charity supporting people who are childless not by choice, www.moretolife.co.UK a place where people dont judge or assume. It is great to see support increasing for people who are involuntarily childlesss
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